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ZIAD NAKAD Fall/Winter 2014 




"This leaves men confused and unable to pigeonhole you. What they are forced to do instead is… take you seriously."

Reblog every time.

i will ALWAYS reblog this. I feel powerful just reading this photoset lol 

Sorry to hijack, but I am reblogging because this is a PERFECT example of a woman with an internalized male gaze. She is trained to see herself at all times the way a man would—not a specific, human man, but the generalized, ruthless male gaze. She is never alone with herself—the male gaze watches her through her own eyes at every moment.

I’m very sorry, but this is not empowering, this is depressing. A woman deserves to not have to perform sexual availability to men to be “taken seriously.” A woman deserves her independence without having to cater to men to avoid being pigeonholed as a “bitch.” A woman’s integrity is not contingent on her sexual history, and her sexual history is no one’s business. Getting power over a man through being his mommy is not real power because it leaves you with all the responsibility and none of the credit, just like his real mother. Seeing yourself through the male gaze is seeing a constant distortion, is an attack on your true identity.

Here’s a better message. You don’t need men’s permission to be taken seriously. Take yourself seriously. Take other women seriously. And if men don’t take you seriously, annihilate them. Their lack of perception is not your problem. Their soggy diapers are not your problem. Their boners are not your problem. You may have a male child or a male lover, but all of the male gender is not your child or your lover, and you don’t have to treat them like they are. Be yourself. See yourself. See through your own gaze. Turn YOUR gaze on THEM, measure them and find them wanting.

Take yourself seriously. You can be any of the things above if you want to. But don’t do them for men. They aren’t worth it.

Was waiting for someone to do this

(Source: un-usuall-m3mory-x3, via bohogirlslivefree)